How do you say 'no' (and 'yes' to yourself) more often?

Do you know that feeling of always saying 'yes'? Yes to extra tasks, yes to parties you don't feel like going to, yes to requests that take up your time and energy. While deep down you would rather have said no. Good news: saying 'no' more often is not selfish, it is a loving 'yes' to yourself! It gives you more time, peace and space for what is really important.

In this blog you will discover why saying 'no' more often is so good for you and how you can do it in a nice way.

Why is saying 'no' so important?

By saying 'no' to things that drain your energy or don't suit you, you create space for what makes you happy. It helps you guard your boundaries, get to know yourself better and bring more balance into your life. The result? More time, more peace and more freedom!

Every 'no' is a hidden 'yes'.

• 'No' to a busy schedule = 'yes' to me-time.
• 'No' to an extra job = 'yes' to a relaxing evening.
• 'No' to obligations = 'yes' to freedom and energy.

By clearly saying 'no', you choose what you really need. And that is a beautiful thing!

How do you say 'no' in a nice way?

Saying no can be difficult sometimes. You don’t want to disappoint others, but you also want to be true to yourself. Luckily, with a little practice, you can say “no” kindly and clearly. Here are a few tips:

1. Be direct, but friendly

Say what you mean clearly without beating around the bush. For example, use:

• “Thanks for thinking of me, but I'll pass this time.”
• “I appreciate you asking, but I can't do it right now.”

Short, clear and friendly. That is often more appreciated than a vague answer.

2. Use your schedule as an excuse

If you find it hard to just say no, use your calendar. For example:

• “I would like to, but I already have other plans.”
• "I'm busy right now, but maybe another time?"

This way you keep it light and give yourself space.

3. Don't give unnecessary explanations

You don't owe anyone a long explanation. A short "no" will do. For example:

• "That doesn't suit me right now."
• "I have to think about myself this time."

By staying simple and friendly, you respect your own boundaries.

4. Offer an alternative if you want

Do you want to help, but not now? Then offer an alternative:

• "I can't now, but I'll be happy to help you next week."
• “This doesn't fit into my schedule, but maybe I know someone else who can help.”

This way you can remain helpful without going beyond your means.

5. Practice saying 'no' confidently

The more you say no, the easier it becomes. For example, practice in front of a mirror or write down your answers ahead of time. Remind yourself that saying no doesn’t mean you’re being unkind. You’re simply choosing yourself!

Say yes to yourself

By saying 'no' more often to what you don't want, you give yourself the chance to say 'yes' to what you really find important. You create space for your dreams, your well-being and your own happiness.

And remember: a kind and clear 'no' is an act of self-love. It shows that you value your time and energy. So go for it: give yourself that 'yes' and consciously choose yourself!

💬 Tell me, do you have trouble saying 'no'?

Or do you have a golden tip yourself? Share it below! And remember: a 'no' for someone else can be a beautiful 'yes' for yourself.

Let it go , create space and say 'no' more often! 😊