We all know that friendship is important. It is not for nothing that there is even an International Day of Friendship. That's on July 30. Some things are just more fun to do with a good friend. But friendship is more than that. Here are 5 reasons why true friendship is so important.
Friendship, that's why it's so important!
We live in a time when almost everyone has dozens or even hundreds of 'friends' on social media. But real friendship is of course something different than responding to each other's Instagram posts. True friendship is much more about being there for each other. Physically or online. A true friend will support you when you're going through a tough time, but will also cheer you really hard when you achieve something great. And vice versa of course.
It has been proven many times before that friends are good for your happiness. They are there for an arm around you, a shoulder to cry on or – every now and then – a loving kick in the butt. But true friendship is also very valuable for the following 5 reasons.
Reason 1 - You learn from your friends
You learn new things every day throughout your life. Also from your friends. And she from you. There are always situations where you could use some wise advice. For example, if you are not feeling well, if you are in doubt about a great opportunity or if you are struggling with a difficult dilemma. It then helps to discuss it with someone who knows you well. Your friend may not see the thresholds you see and may just be holding up the mirror you need.
But even if you're not having a hard time, you can learn from your friends. Maybe you have a friend who can relax very well, while you go through life like a restless whirlwind. Or maybe your best friend is much more outgoing than you are and sometimes pushes you out of your comfort zone. The differences between you are a nice learning experience in itself. For both sides, by the way.
Reason 2 - Friends give you a boost
You also doubt yourself sometimes. Can you handle that new challenge? Are you good enough for the person you are dating? And are you doing well as a parent/partner/child/colleague? Real friends support you when you doubt yourself. They have long seen what you have to offer and know that you are good enough. A friend can remove your doubts like no other and encourage you to go for it anyway. And the great thing is: sometimes you don't need anything else to take steps than that one last push from a friend.
Reason 3 - You can lose your egg with friends
Talking air. In fact, sometimes a good conversation is all you need to get rid of annoying worrying thoughts. You only have to tell what happened in scents and colors, and you may immediately feel ten kilos lighter. Ventilating your heart prevents stress and endless worry. Also because someone else can often put your thoughts into perspective better than you can. And venting your heart is of course the best thing to do with a friend you completely trust.
Reason 4 - With friends keep your memories alive
I have to admit: there are things that I just prefer doing with someone else. Usually I enjoy myself just fine, but sitting alone in a restaurant is less my thing. The same goes for going to the cinema, going on a city trip or cooking an extensive dinner. Then I prefer that the spot opposite me is occupied by a pleasant friend. There is nothing better than sharing beautiful moments with someone else. If only because then you can keep the memories alive together.
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Reason 5 - You have friends for life
Your life changes. You change. And people come and go in your life. Your colleagues change when you change jobs. Your neighbors probably won't live next door to you for the rest of your life. There is a good chance that you are no longer together with the person you were kissing in seventh grade at a school party. Your friends will experience you in different phases. You experience beautiful and sad things together and you also go through special phases together. Friends can be that one stable factor with all those exciting changes.
Sometimes it's just a nice idea that - even when things change - you at least have the same great friends to fall back on. That immediately reduces change. Not everything changes; you still have each other. American research (conducted over a period of 19 years) shows that many people still have their friends from university even decades later. Even if those friends now live miles apart, that doesn't affect their friendship.
So you may have friends for life. That alone makes friendship more than worth investing time, effort and energy.
What is the best thing that friendship has brought you?
About the authorMore often Happy
Copywriter, language fanatic, crazy about color and cheerful as often as possible. That's who Romy Veul is in a nutshell. On her blog More Happy she takes you along in her positive fantasies. This always with a modest dose of humor and nice colorful photos.